To get over someone you need at least two months of no communication and not even hearing their voice. No, it’s not easy, but once you move past the attachment, you’re free to find someone who will be thrilled to have you as their girlfriend, and doesn’t make you wonder and wait. There’s a reason I have dedicated the last dozen years to helping women understand how men are different than women. When you fully embrace and honor those differences, your relationships with men will transform. You can learn how to understand men with the secrets about men in Men Made Easy. If you want to find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, go to KaraOh.com and sign up to receive my 3 free ebooks.

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It’s important in this kind of situation to set some boundaries. You’re being a doormat and there’s no way he can respect you for accepting the crumbs he tosses your way. And there’s no way you can respect yourself. You know this is not good, but you’re ever hopeful that he’ll come back. There’s another aspect about this that both men and women do to each other ”I don’t want you, but I don’t want anyone else to have you either plus, if I decide I want you back, there you are.”

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I dated a man for eighteen months and he would never introduce me to his daughter or his mother. After a few months, that should have been a tip off. I think this should happen within the first two months. Maybe not the family, but for sure, his friends. If he’s not willing to include you in his full life, he’s just dating you for the time being. If you’re having sex, then you’re most likely a booty call, especially if he isn’t taking you out. There are more things to watch for, but these are pretty easy to figure out. If you’re not getting this, then it’s best to move on to someone who is into you. A lot of women’s frustrations with men is because they don’t understand the hidden world of what men are thinking. If you want to really get inside a man’s head, know what causes him to fall in love and more important, stay in love, you’ll definitely want to learn how to use my Secrets about men.

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I was at a conference of academics and I was talking to a woman about what I do. She told me about a very smart woman who teaches finance, very accomplished, many awards and lots of respect from her peers. But, she said, this very smart women just turns stupid when it comes to men. Why do we do that? I think it’s because most of what we know comes to us from outside influences; like fairy tales, love-at-first-site-happily-ever-after-with-no-problems-EVER movies and novels, lame advice from friends, stupid, and inane articles in most women’s magazines. and no tools to know how to do it any different.

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Too many women write to me explaining that their ex keeps in frequent contact, want’s to hang out, and even, occasionally, makes a booty call. This is very unhealthy behavior, on both sides. Him for doing it, and the woman for allowing it. If this has happened (or it’s currently going on), he’s got you on a tether. He won’t let go so you can find someone else, and he strings you along JUST enough to keep your hopes up. This is not good for you because it keeps you in a state of hopeful limbo.

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